PERSONALITY, SUCCESS AND FACING FAILURES

Define Personality:

The word personality comes from the Latin word persona, which refers to a theatrical mask taken by performers in order to project role. It is the characteristic patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that make a person unique.
Personality is a characteristical way of thinking, feeling, and behaving. It embraces moods, attitudes, and opinions and is most clearly expressed in interactions with other people of group. It also includes behavioral characteristics, both inherent and acquired, that distinguish one person from another.
Thus we can say in short that Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving.

Theories behind Personality Definition:

A-Trait theories
According to the traits theories, personality traits can be obtained by conducting various personality tests. Eysenck, Digman, Allport, and Cattell are the prominent trait theoristics. theories given by them are as:

A1- Eysenck's Three Trait Theory

British psychologist Hans Eysenck developed a model of personality based on just three universal personality factors( psychoticism, extraversion, and neuroticism) on the basis of factor analysis of human personality. Since this model is based on three dimensions of human characteristics is also known as PEN model.
[i] Psychoticism / Normality:-Individuals who are high on this trait tend to have difficulty dealing with reality and may be antisocial, hostile, non-empathetic, and manipulative.
[ii] Extraversion /Introversion:-A person high in introversion might be quiet and reserved, while an individual high in extraversion might be sociable and outgoing.
[iii] Neuroticism / Emotional stability:-Neuroticism refers to an individual’s tendency to become upset or emotional, while stability refers to the tendency to remain emotionally constant.
The Individual's personality can be explained by his position on two independent polarities, namely, extroversion - inhoversion and neuroticism - stability, which generate by their inkraclion the four types in the bio-physical Hippocrams - Galen's proposition as figured below.

A2-Five-Factor Model of Personality/ Big Five Model

A3- Cattell’s 16-Factor Personality Model

1. Abstractedness: Imaginative / practical
2. Apprehension: Worried / confident
3. Dominance: Forceful / submissive
4. Emotional stability: Calm / high-strung
5. Liveliness: Spontaneous / restrained
6. Openness to change: Flexible / attached to the familiar
7. Perfectionism: Controlled / undisciplined
8. Privateness: Discreet / open
9. Reasoning: Abstract / concrete
10. Rule-consciousness: Conforming / non-conforming
11. Self-reliance: Self-sufficient / dependent
12. Sensitivity: Tender-hearted / tough-minded
13. Social boldness: Uninhibited / shy
14. Tension: Inpatient / relaxed
15. Vigilance: Suspicious / trusting
16. Warmth: Outgoing / reserved

A4-Allport's Trait Theory

According to th Gordon Allport’s Theory of Personality, (1961): Personality is a dynamic organization, inside the person, of psychophysical systems that create the person’s characteristic patterns of behavior, thoughts, and feelings.
Dynamic Organization :Different elements of the aforementioned psycho-physical system are subject to change. They are constantly changing and developing, however, this change can gradually take place over a long period.
Psychophysical Systems:Personality is an interactive system between the psychological and physical aspects. At the physiological level, the endocrine system and the various glands in our body are the interacting factors.
Unique Adjustment to Environment :is characterized the reason for that experiences of every person are unique and therefore their reaction to the environment is also unique.
He created a list of more than 4,000 personality traits and organized these characteristics of individual's personality into three main categories:
[i]-Cardinal traits [sadism, quixotic, narcissistic,chauvinism and eminent traits]
[ii]-Central traits [smart, dumb, wild, shy, sneaky, dopey, grumpy,s intelligent,sincere, kind, possessive, competitive, ambitious,funny,honesty]
[iii]-Secondary traits [a person may like hot chocolate, prefer the winters, wear gogales most of time, chew tobacco ]
Gordon Allport and Henry Odbert listed around 17953 words in the English language that refers to personality. Gorden symmarised that central traits work together to shape a person's personality, it is the main building block of human personality.

CONCEPT OF PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

Types of Personality:-

Theoreticall there are Four types of Personality can be identified explained here:
Type A: perfectionist, impatient, competitive, work-obsessed, achievement-oriented, aggressive, stressed
Type B: low stress, even-tempered, flexible, creative, adaptable to change, patient, tendency to procrastinate
Type C: highly conscientious, perfectionists, struggle to reveal emotions (positive and negative)
Type D: feelings of worry, sadness, irritability, pessimistic outlook, negative self-talk, avoidance of social situations, lack of self-confidence, fear of rejection, appearing gloomy, hopelessness

Characteristics of Personality

The fundamental characteristics of personality are as:
1-Consistency: A recognizable order and regularity to behaviors.
2-Psychological and Physiological:A psychological construct and it is also influenced by biological processes and needs.
3-Behaviors and actions:How we move and respond in our environment.
4-Multiple expressions: It can be seen in our thoughts, feelings, close relationships, and other social interactions.

Components Defines Personality/ Dimentions For Personality Development:

The following Five primary components that define the personality of human are as:
extroversion, agreeableness, emotional stability, conscientiousness and openness to experience. many others also applicable for personality identification

1. Extroversion: represents the degree to which an individual is social or antisocial, outgoing or shy, assertive or passive, active or inactive and talkative or quiet. A person who rates high for first traits in these pairs is extroverted, while someone who rates high for second traits is introverted.
2. Agreeableness: measures the degree to which a person is friendly or reversed, cooperative or guarded, flexible or rigid, trusting or cautious, good natured or moody, softhearted or tough and tolerant or judgmental. Those scoring high on the first element of these paired traits are viewed as more disagreeable and difficult to work with.
3. Emotional Stability: characterizes the degree to which a person is consistent or inconsistent is how they react to certain events, reacts impulsively or weighs options before acting and takes things personally or looks at a situation objectively.
4. Conscientiousness: represents the degree to which an individual is dependable or inconsistent, can be counted on or is unreliable, follows through on commitments or are generally perceived to be careful, thorough, organized, persistent, achievement oriented, hardworking and persevering.
5. Openness to experience: characterizes the degree to which people are interested in broadening their horizons or limiting them, learning new things or sticking with what they already know, meeting new people or associating with current friends and co-workers, going to new places or restricting themselves to known places. Individuals who score high on this factor tend to be highly intellectual, broad minded. Curious, imaginative and cultured.
6. Self-monitoring: is the tendency to adjust our behaviour relative to the changing demands of social situations. The concept of monitoring our own personality can help us come to grips with both those qualities we view as positive and those we would like to change. By being aware of the role of self-monitoring, we can assess our own behaviours and attitudes; diagnose which elements we are satisfied with, and identify and develop plans for addressing those aspects we want to change. When self-monitoring, it is important to want to set personal standards in accordance with certain accepted norms.
7. Attitudes: are evaluative statements or learned pre-dispositions to respond to an object, person or an idea in a favorable or unfavorable way. Attitudes are narrow in scope. They can vary from situation to situation. Strong attitudes can have an impact on professional and personal relationship. Our attitude can determine whether we think positively and take control of a situation or think negatively and feel helpless to change or respond to a situation. Our attitude is an important component of our ability to be productive at work.
8. Perceptions: Perception describes the process by which individuals gather sensory information and assign meaning to it. When we encounter a person or situation, we use our senses to absorb various inputs. Next our brains select aspects from stored information in order to process and organize these inputs. Finally our brains interpret and evaluate the person or situation. Individual perception may not always be consistent with reality; it is only perceiver’s interpretation of reality. Our perceptions are influenced by many factors, such as our culture, environment, heredity, the media, peers, past experiences, intelligence, needs, emotions, attitudes and values.
9. Self-disclosure: Another means of self-awareness is through self disclosure-sharing your thoughts, feelings and ideas with others without self-deception, without distortion. Talking to others allows to share our feelings and responses. Self-disclosure is a key factor in improving self-awareness; we must disclose information and interact with others to further clarify our perceptions.
10. Diverse Experiences: Another way of increasing self-awareness is through acquiring multiple experiences in diverse situations and with diverse others. As we encounter new situations, we use skills and acquire new ones, meet people and develop friendships, see new places and learn first hand about things we might have only read about.

TRAITS FOR BUILDING POSITIVE PERSONALITY :

1. Accept Responsibility of work assign by master.
2. Show consideration and accountability.
3. Think Win-Win.
4. Choose your words carefully before speaking.
5. Never Criticize, Complain and Condemn to boss.
6. Smile and Be Kind with members of group.
7. Put Positive interpretation on other people’s behavior.
8. Be a Good Listener and listen with curicity.
9. Be Enthusiastic and eagerness.
10. Be honest and Sincere, Appreciate to honesty.
11. When you make a mistake, accept it and make it easy to amend.
12. Discuss but don’t argue with other project members.
13. Don’t Gossip in the work duration.
14. Turn your promises into commitment as much as possible.
15. Be grateful but do not expect gratitude.
16. Be dependable and practice loyalty with organisation.
17. Avoid bearing grudges.
18. Practice honesty, Integrity and Sincerity.
19. Practice Humility before employablity.
20. Be understanding and Caring for every one.
21. Practice courtesy with other project mates on daily basis.
22. Develop a sense of humor with all, avoid leg pulling, pull hand.
23. Don’t be sarcastic and put others down.
24. Try to become a friend, behve like a Friend.
25. Show Empathy with all.

Factors Influencing Personality Development

The factors influencing personality classified under three categories, they are:
A. Biological Factors : include genetic, hereditary factors, physical appearance and physique and rate of maturation.For personality development, the characteristics such as—aggressiveness, nervousness, timidity and sociability are strongly influenced by genetic endowment.
B. Cultural Determinants:
C. Family Influences:
The factors that can be controlled externaly are as follows:
1- Home Environment,
2- Parental Influence,
3- School Environment,
4- Social Culture,
5- Family Treatment
6- Mass Media and Social Media,
7- Social Traditions,

What is success?

Success is the situation for achieving a desired goal (Position, Wealth etc) or for obtaining name and fame or wealth or a higher degree, for which a person has tried upto best effort.
The best definition for success is:
Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal
where the meaning of the terms are:

• Progressive: means that success is a journey, not a destination. We never arrive at success. After we reach one goal, we go on to the next and the next and the next.
• Realization: means it is an experience. Outside forces cannot make me feel successful. I have to feel it within myself. It is internal not external.
• Worthy: refers to our value system. Which way are we heading? Positive or negative? Worthiness determines the quality of the journey. That is what gives meaning and fulfilment.Success without fulfilment is empty.
• Goals: are important. Because they give us a sense of direction.

Hurdles In Achieving Success

There are many Obstacles affecting to the your success, some of them are as:

1. Procrastination[टालमटोल]:-The act of putting off doing your task for another day or time, because you do not want to do it with zeal.
2. Lack of Vision[दृष्टि की कमी]:- Everyone is talking about the importance of having a goal.Before you start something, set yourself a goal.
3. Lack of Focus[ध्यान की कमी]:- The inability to properly focus all our efforts on a given task is another major obstacle to success.Keep your eyes on the prize.
4. Fuzziness[अस्पष्टता]:- first write out your purpose statement, and then write down your short- and long-term goals.
Your goals may change as you go, but constantly check your list to be sure you are on right path and headed straight towards them.
5. Lack of Willpower[इच्छाशक्ति की कमी]:-Many are under the impression that success comes easily.Even more so, most even expect that success will come relatively easy for them. What most do not take into account is that the road to success is often paved with sacrifices.
6. Ego[अहंकार]:-Ego leads to down fall. It blocks you from relating with those around you and building a network of support that can help you rise to the top.
7. Trying to Please Everyone[सभी को खुश करने की कोशिश]:-If there’s one certain key to failure, it’s the attempt to please everyone around you. After all, you can’t please everybody, so why bother about it?
8. No Proper planning[कोई उचित योजना नहीं]:-The implementation for intentions “failure planing” due to improper planning.
9. Poor time management[खराब समय प्रबंधन]:-Update your list regularly, and keep track of time-wasters or “self-sabateurs,” such as social media, too much time at the water cooler, and jobs that don’t directly propel you closer to your goal. Your workday doesn’t have to revolve around the 9-5 schedule -- always be ready to work.
10. The Average Mentality[औसत मानसिकता]:-To be average means to accept mediocrity. The average mentality leads us to live a life of unreached potential. If we do not strive for greatness and excellence it’s very difficult to be successful at what we’re doing.
11. Doing too much alone[अकेले बहुत कुछ करना]:-One Tree can’t make a forest, but one match stick can burn a forest.
12. The Pursuit of Perfection[पूर्णता की खोज]:-
13. Lack of Information[जानकारी का अभाव]:-
14. Lack of Skill[कौशल की कमी]:-
15. Well being[हाल चाल]:-
16. Family responsibilities[पारिवारिक जिम्मेदारियां]:-
17. Lack of persistence[दृढ़ता की कमी]:-
18. Over commitment[प्रतिबद्धता से अधिक]:-
19. Lack of commitment[प्रतिबद्धता का अभाव]:-
20. Lack of priorities[प्राथमिकताओं की कमी]:-
21. Own Motivation[खुद की प्रेरणा]:-
22. Improper Money Management[अनुचित धन प्रबंधन]:-Money is a common reason for not pursuing your goal.Usually, it is the lack of money that stops you.When you hear someone say “I can’t afford it” or “I just don’t have the money”.These statements are usually offered up without much hesitation.While I agree that it may well be true to some extent, what alternatives have they explored and how else could the money be found?If you are serious about achieving this goal, what lengths would you go to to find the money (legally).Let’s turn this around and look at it from another perspective.
23. Fear of failure[विफलता का भय]:-And never forget, the biggest failure of all is the mistake of not trying at all.If you need to do something that takes you right outside of your comfort zone for the first time, which may well install fear into you.Then there is the fear of failure.What will those around you think if you don’t achieve your goal?
24. Holding back:-The key is to give everything you have, all of the time. I’m never satisfied unless I've competed as hard as I can. If you’re not achieving what you want, don’t lower your expectations. Instead, raise your standards.
25. Attitude:-Avoid negativity and negative people, starting with yourself. Negative people will drain your energy and hinder your progress, and negative thoughts will slow you down and discourage you. If things are hard, work harder. If you fail, learn from your mistakes.
26. Limiting beliefs/Self-Doubt[स्व संदेह]:-
27. Distraction from motive [मकसद से व्याकुलता]:-

FACTORS RESPONSIBLE FOR SUCCESS

1. The first success factors is education. So follw always this rule, “to earn more, you must learn more.”
2. The second success factors is simply skill development.The level of your ability in your field will determine the quality and quantity of outcomes.
3. The third success factor is best circle of relationships by developing an ever-widening contacts.
4. The forth success factor is bank balance that gives you freedom and ability to take advantage of opportunities.
5. The fifth success factor is good habbits that help you to get far more done in a shorter period of time.
6. The sixth success factor is mental attitude that enhance professional career and reduce the amount of time to take to achieve your goals.
7. The seventh success factor is positive impression that incorporate into your lifestyle and help you to achieve the best of yourself.
8. The eighth success is Creativity that requires continually look for better, faster, easier, cheaper ways to get the job done. So remember One good idea can change your fortune.
9. The ninth success factor is character that open maximum door for opportunities.
10. The tenth success factor is decision making that maximize to execute idea into action.

KEY FACTORS TO GET SUCCESS

Following are the key factors to help for getting success fast.

1. Having a clear plan.
2. Prioritising your goals.
3. Acquiring relevant education and skills.
4. Cultivating good habits.
5. Having a positive and constructive attitude.
6. Learning from your mistakes.
7. Being open to new things.
8. Taking risks and challenges.
9. Working hard in right direction.
10. Always being prepared.

DEVELOPING EFFECTIVE HABITS

How to Find Success in Life

Since Success is defined as accomplishing your personally-defined goals that are sef-created. Success can vary depending on their needs, goals, and situation.

• Build a Growth Mindset:-What can you do to build a growth mindset?
1-Believe that your efforts matter
2-Learn new skills.
3-View failures as learning experiences.

• Improve Your Emotional Intelligence:- To improve your emotional intelligence do the following:
1-Pay attention to your own emotions.
2-Manage your emotions.
3-Listen to others.

• Develop Mental Toughness:-do the following to improve your mental toughness and increase your chances of being successful in life?
1-Believe in yourself.
2-Keep trying.
3-Care for yourself.

• Strengthen Your Willpower
• Focus on Intrinsic Motivations
• Set Achievable Goals
• Nurture Traits Linked to High Potential
• Cultivate Strong Social Support
• Avoid Burnout

WHAT IS FAILURE?

STAGES OF FAILURE

There are three main challenges/ stages of failure, as explain here:
Stage 1: is a Failure of Tactics. HOW we make mistakes.
They occur when you fail to build robust systems, forget to measure carefully, and get lazy with the details. A Failure of Tactics is a fail to execute a good plan.
Stage 2: is a Failure of Strategy. WHAT mistakes we make.
They occur when you follow a strategy that fails to deliver the results as per need. You can not understand the wrong things in your approach.Again choose the wrong one to make it happen.
Stage 3: is a Failure of Vision. WHY we make mistakes.
They occur when you don't set a clear direction for yourself. You can not understand the causes behind the mistakes. clear the vision and remove the roots of mistakes.

FACTORS AFFECTING FAILURES

LEARNING FROM FAILURES

OVERCOMING FAILURES

POWER OF FAITH

PRACTICING FAITH

SWOT ANALYSIS

SMART GOAL SETTING